SciFiFan's Dad

[SciFiFan]

I started this thread so that my WIP thread can maintain that topic. Many of you remember me mentioning that my modding has taken a back seat due to my Dad. I got a call at about 11:45 PM CST last night from my older brother. There was an ambulance to take my dad to the hospital. His back has been hurting him a few weeks now and last night his legs gave out. One of his vertebra collapsed pinching a nerve. He will have surgery on Friday. He will then stay in the hospital until all of the radiation treatments are done. Needless to say, this Christmas will be far different than any other I have ever had.

My family would greatly appreciate any prayers y'all can send.

 

[Majestic]

I am really sorry to hear this mate. But at least your dad is still with you and your family is united. I hope it all goes well and your Christmas while different can still be a memorable one (a happy one) with you all sharing the true meaning for Christmas, being together and thankful for your family and friends etc.

I hope he gets well soon and that you all can be there with your father for Christmas.

 

[CABAL]

I hope your dad gets better soon. Fortunately, as long as he takes it easy after the surgery I think he'll be fine. You should see if the hospital will let you have a Christmas celebration in the room they give your dad if he's in the hospital through Christmas. They might limit your time, but I don't see why they wouldn't let you.

 

[Jetfreak]

Remember to think positive I'd say, really sad to hear about the issue man, you have our prayers and support no doubt.

 

[Ryderstorm]

I have to say this topic really strikes a more sympathetic nerve now than if say a year ago. My father went through a life or death illness last august/september. 16 days of ICU and another 16 in a nursing home for recovery. And during this doctors were advising us to make him DNR and to just let him go. We finally did make that decision to DNR him the third time he came off the vent..but he pulled through and still with us. I thank god and all of our friends that helped us through that ordeal and prayed for us and my dad.

Im really sorry ur dad is having such problems. I hope his surgery goes flawless and he is able to make a full recovery. I know what its like to say the least.... I will be saying a prayer for him tonight.

 

[SciFiFan]

Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement. I am really glad I found friends among strangers here. I will post updates when I get them if so desired.

 

[thunderfoot]

There is never a good time for something such as this to occur. Something such as this occurring this time of year only makes it more poignant. All I can offer is prayer but you're more than welcome to as much of that as you want.

 

[SciFiFan]

I just got word today. The doctors are giving my dad 10 to 24 months. My two brothers and I are going to get with him sometime this weekend to get his affairs in order.

 

[Majestic]

I am so sorry to hear this, but never give up hope. The Doctors thought that my Mum wouldn't survive and she is still with us today with no cancer what so ever.

My thoughts and those of Katala and our kids are with you and your family and I wish you the very best in this hard time.

 

[Ryderstorm]

Thats definitly not the news anyone wants to here. But the docs said that if my father pulled thru that he be brain damaged and retarded. The docs were wrong about that with my fathers prognosis. So I personally would not put much faith into a doctors estimate. But I guess it is best to be prepared.

Anyways Im really sorry to read that they give your dad 10-24 months...but thats a lot better than 10-24 days. I hope his remaining time can be of as best quality of life as posible.

 

[FahreS]

Oh man, i feel very sorry for you and your family. I believe we all know to some degree how you feel, because similar things do happen to everyone.

I can only agree with the previous posts, dont let the hope die. There is more than medicine that can help your father.

 

[SciFiFan]

I went and spent some time with my dad today. It turns out that his cancer was caused from back when he was smoking. Though he has not smoked in more that 20 years ago, it is still killing him. I also found out that had my brother not called the ambulance on tuesday night, we would be planning a funeral right now. The doctors are treating my dad to improve his quality of life (getting rid of the pain) but, the treatment is killing him as much as the cancer. The doctors are, however, impressed with the progress he has made over the last few days. He was able to get out of bed and walk around today.

 

[Ryderstorm]

The human spirit is never to be underestimated. Im glad he was able to get up and move around. But if he is anything like my father then he might be to dang stubborn or ornery for his own good so keep a watch on him. Ill keep him in my prayers.

 

[SciFiFan]

Hello my MSFC Family. My dad was moved to a hospice care facility today (2-26-2010 CST). They do not expect him to make it past the weekend. Due to this, I may not be back for a few days to a week. I want to thank you all who have prayed for my family and ask that you continue to do so.

 

[Majestic]

My wishes will continue to be with you and your family in this time of great hardship and stress.

I wish your family only the best and hope your Dad pulls through proving the doctors wrong.

We will be here when you get back, no doubt about that. I hope this weekend goes well for you and your family and your Dad shows us all that fighting something like this is possible and that doctors can easily be wrong.

 

[thunderfoot]

You have all of my hopes and prayers that you desire. I'll be right here if you need anything else. All you need do is ask.

 

[SciFiFan]

Thank you both. It really means a lot to me.

I have one request. I would like it if no matter where you all are in the world, If you can, please donate something to cancer research. It is only if everyone works together can the human race (the only race that matters) rid the world of this plight.

 

[Majestic]

My Mum suffered from it a few, well more than a few years back. (In 2006). She had a really rare type, only two people in Australia had ever been diagnosed with it.

She survived, which surprised everyone except me, even my sister and Father and even the doctors thought she wasn't going to make it. But she is still alive today and as strong as she has ever been. Hence why I don't believe much doctors say.

I understand what you're going through and I hope it works out for you as it did for me.

 

[SciFiFan]

We can't even wake him any more. He has a fever which will not go down. He has trouble breathing. They gave him something for the breathing and the fever and neither is working. It is just a matter of time now.

 

[FallenGraces]

"Everybody dies, but not everybody lives"

I have to say if you are any proof of life for the man you call your father. He had one hell of a life. Be proud

 

[thunderfoot]

SciFi, I have been where you are now. My own father passed while I was in Germany. I barely got home in time for the funeral. I was there when my mother passed. It was dreadful. The pain and sorrow were almost unbearable. I would have given anything, anything to take that pain away from her. Gladly and with no hesitation at all.

My grief was tempered by the thought she would eventually be someplace where the pain could no longer reach her. For the first time in a very very long time, she would not have to suffer through the thousand and one small indignities which come daily with being a terminally ill patient. She would be free somewhere once again to be the woman I remembered as a small boy.

Grief and pain are supposed to be part of this. We think endlessly of all the things which we will not have soon and have to give up far sooner than we want to. My father has been deceased since 1984 and not a day goes by I do not run across something I'd like to share with him. Nothing life changing or anything like that. Might just be a joke or a song or something which happened at work today. I am certain I will see him again. He is not gone. Not really. I have all my memories of him whch no one can take from me. In the meantime, I am saving up all the really good stories to tell him first thing the next time I see him. And the next time I see him, he will be as he was meant to be. Strong, full of mirth and with that little naughty boy twinkle in his eye which meant he was about to give me a rough time about something I did or said he found highly amusing. Free of the pain and the disease which took him away from me here.

I've only known you for a little while. I am in agreement with FallenGraces here. If you are any indication, your father is a fine man and has a legacy in you and your family anyone would be proud of and very few people ever have the chance at. Do what you should do to heal the hurt and the sorrow. Help the other members of your family as well. If it gets to be a little too heavy to carry by yourself and you need a hand, ask and I'll do whatever I can to lighten the burden. Pretty sure I'm not the only one who feels this way about you around here, either. After all, you are our friend. And friends help one another in times like this.

 

[FahreS]

you and your dad have my prayers. I cant imagine how you feel, but i feel with you.

 

[Jetfreak]

Really tragic to hear all this, we're with you man

 

[StarBlade]

if you are any proof of life for the man you call your father. He had one hell of a life. Be proud

Couldn't agree more. We grieve their parting but we celebrate all they've given us. And it seems, SciFiFan, like you have so very much to celebrate. For what comfort it's worth, we all grieve with you.

 

[Chiletrek]

Hello:
All that I can say is that you must be strong, strong enough to not let pain to overwhelm you and strong enough to keep living your life in the best way you can.
I know you have the whole support of this community and the support of other places you may have joined too (real and virtual worlds), I hope this support will be able to help you cheer up a little bit.

 

[SciFiFan]

My dad passed away between 12:00 and 1:00 AM (CST US) this morning. I want to thank you all who have been praying for me and my family. You all have helped keep me strong though this and your support has been greatly appreciated. It was my dad who got me into Sci-Fi. He will be greatly missed.

 

[dinosaurJR]

I am really sorry to hear this. I'm so sorry you've lost your father, I cant even imagine how this must feel - I never knew my dad, and he passed away when I was 16...

You have my condolences, for whatever they are worth.

 

[Majestic]

I am truly sorry to hear this, I hope you are coping okay and that the days get easier as time goes on.

We're here for you mate.

 

[CrazyFrog1903]

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

I was there when my father took his last breathe as well. That was his second time in a 3 year span to be on his "death bed".

Just take heart that he is in a better place and he will never be forgotten as long as you and your family remember him and live on in his honor. We are all here for you. You and your family have our thoughts and prayers.

 

[thunderfoot]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences.